Shalom Life | August 25, 2014

Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? Israeli Study Says Yes

Interdisciplinary Center study finds that men are attracted to niceness, but women prefer ‘masculine behavior. ‘

By: Emma Mazerall

Published: August 18th, 2014 in Health » Israel

Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last? Israeli Study Says Yes

Israeli psychologists have recently published findings that back up that age-old saying: nice guys finish last. The research indicates that guys shouldn’t be too “nice” on a first date, while women definitely benefit from being kind.

This research may not be universally applicable, since the test group was exclusively university students, but the findings could help men and women navigate the ever-important first date.

While many would say that they look for a partner who is responsive to their needs, the study found that single men are mostly attracted to women who were responsive, but single women were not.

In a small series of studies, single men preferred single women who were responsive to their needs and wishes during their first conversation, finding these women more feminine and attractive.

The women, on the other hand, had no preference for responsiveness.

Those behind the study believe that women are looking at factors other than responsiveness to determine a man’s masculinity and attractiveness. However, it’s possible that the women in the study interpreted men’s responsiveness as a lack of masculinity.

Interestingly, it comes on the heels of an Israel-based sperm bank which decreed that women were looking for sperm donors who were former combat soldiers, also due to the 'masculinity' associated with fighting in war.

“Women may see responsive men as more masculine, less masculine, or neither,” said Professor Gurit Birnbaum of the Interdisciplinary Centre in Herzliya, who led the study. “Regardless of the reasons, men may want to slow down if their goal is to instill sexual desire.”

In the tests, 56 pairs of men and women talked about a problem in one of their lives, and the participants later rated their partner’s responsiveness, attractiveness, and “gender typicality” (ie. How masculine the men were or how feminine the women were.)

Analysis of these tests showed that men found the more responsive women more feminine and attractive, and were more interested in dating them. Women, however, were slightly less attracted to the men who were more responsive, and more attracted to the men they found more masculine instead.

This preference for “manly-men” and “girly-girls” is likely rooted in evolution, with men seeking out good nurturers and women looking for strong providers.

Regardless of the reasons, these findings seem to suggest that responsiveness on a first date makes women more appealing to the opposite sex, whereas men are better off playing it cool.

Whey Good News for Diabetics Whey Good News for Diabetics TrendingStudy: An Overwhelming 86% of Israelis Are Happy, Despite the Conflict Study: An Overwhelming 86% of Israelis Are Happy, Despite the Conflict TrendingIsraeli Company Combines Style And Technology To Save Lives Israeli Company Combines Style And Technology To Save Lives Trending
 

The Ten Best Jewish Ice Bucket Challenges

August 22, 2014 | By Daniel Koren
The Ten Best Jewish Ice Bucket Challenges

From Drake to Adam Sandler, here are some of the best challenges we've seen that benefit the ALS Foundation

Read More

REVIEW: The LOT’s ‘Little Mermaid Jr’ Is Colourful, Catchy and Captivating

August 22, 2014 | By Ashley Ramnarain
REVIEW: The LOT’s ‘Little Mermaid Jr’ Is Colourful, Catchy and Captivating

The Lower Ossington Theatre's adaptation of Disney's popular 1989 film is a must-see family adventure.

Read More

7,000-Year-Old Metal Object Discovered in Israel

August 22, 2014 | By Daniel Koren
7,000-Year-Old Metal Object Discovered in Israel

The copper owl buried with a woman is the oldest piece of copper ever discovered in the Middle East

Read More

Ontario Students Pass BDS Resolultion

August 22, 2014 | By Daniel Koren
Ontario Students Pass BDS Resolultion

The Ontario branch of the Canadian Federation of Students unanimously voted to boycott Israel

Read More

Israelis Turn Bomb Shelter Into Underground Casino

August 22, 2014 | By Daniel Koren
Israelis Turn Bomb Shelter Into Underground Casino

Police find casino intact with cannabis plantation and tons of alcohol in Kiryat Gat bomb shelter

Read More

4-Year-Old Israeli Boy Dies in Mortar Attack from Gaza

August 22, 2014 | By Daniel Koren
4-Year-Old Israeli Boy Dies in Mortar Attack from Gaza

First Israeli child fatality brings death toll to 68, the first since Hamas violated ceasefire on Tuesday

Read More

Op-Ed: Losing Patience with Students for Justice in Palestine’s anti-Semitism

August 22, 2014 | By Elliot Hamilton
Op-Ed: Losing Patience with Students for Justice in Palestine’s anti-Semitism

SJP is far from the "social justice" movement it claims to be, as it partakes in some of the worst instances of anti-Semitism on college campuses

Read More

Ashdod Synagogue Hit By Rocket Fire

August 22, 2014 | By Ilanan Curiel
Ashdod Synagogue Hit By Rocket Fire

At least 50 rockets, mortars fired on southern Israel, with one landing near preschool and another striking an Ashdod synagogue, following violent day which saw over 100 rockets launched; IDF hit over 30 Gaza targets in response, two killed

Read More

More Headlines